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Resolution revolution: turning your dating goals into reality

RESOLUTION REVOLUTION: TURNING YOUR DATING GOALS INTO REALITY

M.J. Santos   |   Fri, 10 Jan 2025

Ugh, New Year's resolutions. We all do it: dream big, write them down with glitter pens, and then promptly forget about them by February. Sound familiar? Especially when it comes to dating? "Find love." "Go on more dates." These are noble goals, but let's be real, they're about as useful as a participation trophy in dodgeball. If you're serious about making your love life less "single forever" and more "happily ever after" this year, you need a plan. Let's ditch the vague resolutions and get down to brass tacks about turning your dating dreams into a reality.

SMART goal-setting: from "find love" to "find someone who doesn't put ketchup on everything"

The secret sauce to achieving any goal, dating included, is making it SMART. Not the kind of smart that gets you into Mensa (although, bonus points if you are!), but SMART like this:
Specific: Instead of go on more dates, aim for something concrete like go on one date per month with someone who shares my love for rescue puppies and terrible reality TV.
Measurable: Numbers are your friend! Track your progress. How many profiles did you actually browse this week? Did you send out any messages that sparked a conversation (because let's face it, ghosting is the worst)?
Achievable: Don't go from zero to sixty overnight. If your dating life has been a ghost town for a while, aiming for marriage by March is a recipe for a meltdown. Baby steps, my friend!
Relevant: Make sure your goals align with what you're actually looking for. Do you want something casual, or are you ready to settle down and build a blanket fort empire with someone? Knowing yourself is key.
Time-bound: Deadlines are your dating BFFs. Update my dating profile by next week is way more effective (and less likely to end up on your procrastination pile) than the ever-nebulous eventually.

Actionable steps: From swiping right to actually meeting up

Okay, so you have your SMART goals in place. Now, let's break down the steps to get you from swiping right to meeting up for real-life tacos.
Profile perfection: Your profile is your dating-app shop window. Ditch the blurry bathroom selfies and showcase your awesome personality with recent, clear photos that show you doing things you love. Bio time? Skip the generic clichés and write something authentic and engaging. Pro-tip: Couple has amazing profile prompts to help you unleash your inner wordsmith.
Mastering the art of the message: Ditch the boring "hey" that gets lost in the sea of messages. Show them you actually read their profile! Ask a question about their interests, make a witty observation about their love for flamingos, or send a GIF that perfectly encapsulates your current mood. Bonus points for creativity!
Planning dates that don't suck (because coffee can get old): Coffee dates are cool and all, but let's be honest, they can get repetitive faster than you can say "Netflix and chill" (although, that's always an option too). Spice things up with a creative date idea! Think mini golf, a museum visit with a quirky scavenger hunt, or a cooking class where you can unleash your inner chefs (and maybe avoid setting off the fire alarm). Stuck for ideas? Couple can help you find local events that match your interests, so you can ditch the dreaded "what should we do?" conversation.
Communication is key (literally): Be clear about your intentions and boundaries. Ghosting is the dating-app equivalent of stealing someone's fries – just don't do it. If you're not feeling the connection, be honest and respectful. A simple "thanks for the coffee, but I didn't see a romantic spark" goes a long way.
Embrace the "no" (rejection doesn't have to sting): Rejection is a part of the dating game, just like swiping left. Don't take it personally! Learn from each experience and move on. Who knows, maybe the next swipe right will be your happily ever after.

You got this!

Dating can be tough, but it doesn't have to be a constant struggle. By setting realistic goals, taking action, and using the right tools (like Couple!), you can absolutely create the love life you deserve.


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